Fear the silent killer: 4 ways to overcome!

Each year we are in anticipation of what the new year will bring. We write our list of goals, resolutions and strategies for success. And yet, at the end of each year most of us are left with that same list and are disappointed because we didn’t accomplish what we set out to do.

I sat down and asked myself why is this? While each one of us will have a different answer, my answer is FEAR.

Fear is the silent killer in our lives that keeps us from  becoming who we can be. Fears are set off by past experiences, rejection, failures, doubt and a lack of understanding of who we really are.  As we enter this year it is the perfect time to start addressing some of our fears.  I remember growing up hearing:  “Fear is false evidence appearing real.” Don't feel guilty about being fearful, it's normal and something we can all deal with. However, if you plan on going into business, starting a new career or just want to develop personally don’t let it prevent you from achieving your goals.  

First ask yourself: What past experience, rejection, failure, doubt or perception of yourself are you holding onto that’s stopping you from taking a risk?

Second, tackle your fear: Here are four ways to overcome fear.

Work your plan. It’s important to have a plan in place. When anxiety kicks in and we become fearful about the next step it’s good to have a plan to look at. This plan may be a vision board, map or written out in your journal. Whatever you use make sure the goals are measurable, attainable and realistic.  If we don’t plan, we plan to fail.

Take a risk.  There’s an old saying: “If you always do what you always have done, you’ll always get what you have always gotten.” Step out do something you are scared to do.  Get out of your comfort zone and take little steps each day. Soon the little steps will become a wall of courage.

Focus on the what’s true about you. Fear creeps into our minds at a very young age. We allow our failures, rejection and negative words to define us. We have to turn that around by feeding our minds positive things. Find positive affirmations that build up your self-confidence. I personally go to the Bible and find scriptures of what God says about me. As Zig Ziglar would say, “We are not our failures, they are only moments in time.”  Surround yourself with people that will assist you in seeing your strengths.

Bring a friend along.  You want someone who is honest with you and can push you when it gets challenging.  Walking alone is burdensome, lonely and isolating. The right friends will help you in all of these areas to achieve your goals.